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Dirty Talking Tale of Lust and Libido

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Dirty Talk Dos and Don’ts

If your new partner suddenly blurts out an X-rated rant during intercourse and you've never been with a dirty talker before, how do you respond to that? Is it even necessary to respond? Does dirty talking turn you on or off?

Jill Provost of Tango Magazine tells of her own experience with a partner who didn't hold back, and how she learned to enjoy and participate in it and even to gauge her partner's arousal by what he was blurting out. She writes, "Eventually, I came to associate his dirty talk with being turned on. The more aroused he was, the more verbal he became. If he wasn’t babbling about tits and ass, I assumed he wasn’t stimulated enough." Read her dirty talking tale of lust and libido.

If your libido has gone off on vacation and left you high and dry, a little spicy language in bed could help to kick start things again. If you're thinking of giving it a try, About.com has two articles that could help you get started. How To Talk Dirty gives a list of eight tips to help you feel more comfortable and confident doing it. Sex Tips for the Rest of Us: Embarrassed to Talk Dirty? tackles the discomfort many feel when starting out with dirty talk and gives a way to bypass the initial embarrassment to get started.