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Dirty Talking Tale of Lust and Libido

Last Updated (Wednesday, 13 August 2008 19:17) Wednesday, 13 August 2008 18:30

Dirty Talk Dos and Don’ts

If your new partner suddenly blurts out an X-rated rant during intercourse and you've never been with a dirty talker before, how do you respond to that? Is it even necessary to respond? Does dirty talking turn you on or off?

Jill Provost of Tango Magazine tells of her own experience with a partner who didn't hold back, and how she learned to enjoy and participate in it and even to gauge her partner's arousal by what he was blurting out. She writes, "Eventually, I came to associate his dirty talk with being turned on. The more aroused he was, the more verbal he became. If he wasn’t babbling about tits and ass, I assumed he wasn’t stimulated enough." Read her dirty talking tale of lust and libido.

If your libido has gone off on vacation and left you high and dry, a little spicy language in bed could help to kick start things again. If you're thinking of giving it a try, About.com has two articles that could help you get started. How To Talk Dirty gives a list of eight tips to help you feel more comfortable and confident doing it. Sex Tips for the Rest of Us: Embarrassed to Talk Dirty? tackles the discomfort many feel when starting out with dirty talk and gives a way to bypass the initial embarrassment to get started.

Get Back the Lust and Conquer Low Libido in Your Relationship

Last Updated (Sunday, 10 August 2008 14:55) Sunday, 10 August 2008 14:45

How I Fell Madly In Lust With My Husband

Is your marriage suffering from a case of low libido? Do you wonder if it's possible to get back the desire and excitement you once had in your relationship? Read Susan Shapiro's account in Tango Magazine of how she and her husband reignited the flames and brought lasting lust back into their marriage.

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The Quickie - A Surge of Sex Drive

Last Updated (Saturday, 09 August 2008 09:16) Saturday, 09 August 2008 09:11

Naked: In praise of the quickie

"I felt a little crazy, a little dirty, and unbelievably desired and desirable and sexy," writes Anne Fitzgerald of Elastic Waist on Yahoo! Shine. The quickie, spontaneous sex - have you ever done it? What's the craziest place you've done it? She and her readers answer these questions and consider the tremondous surge of libido and lust that can accompany a quickie.

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Grownups Can Have Fun Too

Last Updated (Wednesday, 06 August 2008 18:20) Wednesday, 06 August 2008 18:12

Grownups

It's been a slow week for libido in the news, so instead we've found a cute libido-related comic for your enjoyment. Click the image to see the full-size version.

Does Low Female Libido and Mean Sex Has Peaked?

Last Updated (Monday, 04 August 2008 18:50) Monday, 04 August 2008 18:45

Am I past my sexual peak?

Misanthropic Romantic asks the readers of Yahoo! Shine for help. Her libido has been low and she's wondering if she's past her sexual peak, if this is a temporary lull, or there's another reason behind it. The readers answer with suggestions for feeling more sexy, personal experiences of ups and downs, the effects of stress on the female ibido, and more.

These are not professional medical or psychiatric opinions, but she writes, "... as Mo'Nique would say, why pay a shrink $500 an hour to lie on a couch and ask for help when you can go through therapy for free with an audience?"

See the reader insights...

Low Female Libido and When Viagra Doesn't Work

Last Updated (Sunday, 03 August 2008 08:30) Sunday, 03 August 2008 08:24

When Viagra fails

Brian Alexander, MSNBC contributor, answers three questions, two are on libido, male and female, and the third addresses what to do if your child walks in while you're having sex. While your child seeing you having sex can certainly have chilling consequences for the libido, we'll focus more on the other two questions here.

The female libido question concerns whether or not the pill is the main factor in the low libido she is experiencing. He quotes his favorite study on the subject and writes that, "overall, women experience positive effects, negative effects, as well as no effect on libido during [oral contraceptive] use," and also makes some suggestions for solutions to consider.

The male libido question deals with what can be done if Viagra and Cialis are not working. Are there any other erectile dysfunction (ED) solutions that can be tried? The answer is yes, and a few are mentioned along with a "go see your urologist" recommendation.

Read Brian's answers...

Porn to Stimulate the Female Libido: Sex in the Gym

Last Updated (Saturday, 02 August 2008 08:41) Saturday, 02 August 2008 08:34

Naked: Sex and the gym

Anne Fitzgerald, of Elastic Waist, asks on Yahoo! Shine, considers the healthy reasons for going to the gym and asks, "have we ever once considered that maybe the gym is also a place to actually have a whole lot of dirty, dirty sex?" She brings this topic up because she's found an adult video titled "Sexercises" at Hot Movies for Her that shows just what fun could be had when the elliptical trainer becomes too boring. Let your libido run wild as you satisfy your fantasies watching this video. (the video is NSFW, of course)

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Sex Toys to Haunt You

Last Updated (Friday, 01 August 2008 18:18) Friday, 01 August 2008 18:12

Meet Your New Favorite Sex Toy

Lux Alptraum, of Boinkology, has found a new ghost-shaped dildo and considers pairing it with the Baby Jesus butt plug for a humorous take on the uses of sex toys. The spooky silicone dildos are glow-in-the-dark and come in two color options: red velvet or tombstone gray. With fall just around the corner, maybe this is just the thing to perk up your Halloween festivities.

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Relax and Enjoy Your Orgasms

Last Updated (Thursday, 31 July 2008 20:06) Thursday, 31 July 2008 19:38

Ten tips for enjoyable orgasms

In honor of National Orgasm Day in the UK, Dr. Petra Boynton has ten tips for enjoying your orgasms and sexual experiences more. The first tip, "Forget that bad sex advice," starts the list off soundly by pointing out some unhelpful advice that commonly shows up in popular reading materials and advertisements urging us all to try the next great product or sex position. She writes, "Not surprising that some people who are enjoying perfectly good sex think they are missing out because there is some 'better' orgasm that's eluding them."

The other tips are equally smart and helpful, with topics such as "Masturbation's massively underrated" and "Orgasms don't have to happen in any set order." Honor your libido by appreciating and enjoying your orgasms and sexuality.

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[Update] In Beyond Orgasm at Sexual Intelligence, Dr. Marty Klein also discusses the orgasm, the National Orgasm Day in the UK, and the often over-emphasis on orgasm. He makes his point as follows: "Orgasm is not the point of sex. It’s a little bonus, a fine bit of punctuation. If it’s the best part of sex for you, you’re missing a whole lot." 

Big Penis Book Sweepstakes

Last Updated (Wednesday, 30 July 2008 19:22) Wednesday, 30 July 2008 19:12

Win the Big Penis Book

Women's Health Magazine is giving away a copy of TASCHEN's new book, The Big Penis Book. At 384 pages, 7.1 pounds and dimensions of 12.2 x 11.8 x 1.5 inches, the pictures aren't the only thing big about this book. WH writes that "what makes this book a priceless treasure for any woman heading to a bachelorette bash, coming-out party, or horny grandma's birthday: 396 pictures—most of them huge and in full-color—of wieners, wangs, willies, johnsons, units, rods, packages, peters, poles, dicks, and donks. And every one of them ranging from merely huge to shockingly ginormous."

Well, we think there are plenty of guys out there who might like this book, too.

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Jealousy, the Libido Killer

Last Updated (Wednesday, 30 July 2008 05:51) Wednesday, 30 July 2008 06:16

Jealousy: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

Jealousy is one emotion that can wreak havoc with the libido. Who feels amorous when bitten by the jealousy bug or the target of it? Tracey Cox of iVillage explains "when jealousy is appropriate, when jealousy is inappropriate and when it's just plain extreme," and gives a "foolproof seven-step plan for taming the green-eyed monster in all of us."

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Female Libido, Depression, and Viagra - a More Critical Look

Last Updated (Tuesday, 29 July 2008 06:49) Tuesday, 29 July 2008 06:40

Women, depression and Viagra - what you need to know

Dr. Petra Boynton takes a critical look at recent news reports that Viagra, the little blue pill, may not be as helpful to women being treated for depression as the news outlets implied after a study was published in JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association). She discusses other factors that need to be considered and delves deeper into the findings of the study.

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The Naked Truth About Penis Size, Vagina Size, and More

Last Updated (Monday, 28 July 2008 18:00) Monday, 28 July 2008 17:06

Vagzilla! (Or, All Genitals Great and Small)

Scarleteen has a fascinating article on penis sizes, vagina sizes, and more, and writes, "let's break down genital size, have a look at what might really be going on with all this too-big, too-small stuff, and see if -- even if it's only for a few minutes -- we can't entertain the idea of thinking about it all differently than we might have before, okay?"

If you're not interested in reading the story, you still might want to check this out just to get a look at this image comparing sizes of various genitals.

 

Solutions for Low Female Libido

Last Updated (Monday, 28 July 2008 06:02) Monday, 28 July 2008 06:20

What to do when your better half says "Not tonight..." and the problem is more serious than a "headache"

"A little blue pill may have taken the heat off men with erectile dysfunction, but what if your wife is having trouble in the bedroom?" writes Chantal Martineau in the blog for The Women's Sexual Health Foundation. She takes a look at the common causes for low libido in women and offers suggestions to "to get her back on track in the bedroom."

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A Humorous Look at the Perils of Text Message Dating

Last Updated (Sunday, 27 July 2008 16:32) Sunday, 27 July 2008 17:28

I Want Your Text

The iVillage Sex on My Desk blog has found a very amusing YouTube video that "plays out like a cartoon Discovery Channel special about 'boy meets girl' in the world of drunken text messaging."

Get your laugh for the day...

Stimulate Libido Via Nipple Stimulation

Last Updated (Sunday, 27 July 2008 08:56) Sunday, 27 July 2008 08:51

Nipples!

Ask Garnet answers a question on nipple sensitivity and expands on that to discuss the differences in sensitivity between men and women and various other interesting bits of information, including various things you can try to increase their sensitivity and thus the libido factor.

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Avoiding Loss of Libido When Dating

Last Updated (Friday, 25 July 2008 18:42) Friday, 25 July 2008 18:45

Dating Don'ts: How To Avoid Being Labeled "A Crazy"

Advice columnist, Judy McGuire of The Frisky, lists six things you shouldn't do when dating, introducing them with this line, "most likely you don’t want your sanity shortcomings to be the first impression you make upon a new date." Of the six recommendations, the second one caught our attention, "mention of psychotherapeutic medications. Know what the #1 side effect of most mental health medications is? Yep, you guessed it—loss o' libido." We're an anti-loss-of-libido shop here at libido.com.

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Before Dating, Call the STD Hotline

Last Updated (Friday, 25 July 2008 06:05) Friday, 25 July 2008 06:13

Licensed To Bone: The Safe Sex License

Boinkology has a post about the STFree.com "Safe Sex License." After signing up for a license and asking your doctor or clinic to send your test results to STFree, "then, when you meet someone you’re looking to bone, they can call up the hotline and verify that, yes, you recently tested negative," according to Lux Alptraum. Questions come to mind about privacy, but it seems like a step that could easily be added to the usual pre-dating research via Google routine.

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Reality vs. Fantasy for Men - Breast Size, Penis Size, and Truthiness

Last Updated (Thursday, 24 July 2008 17:42) Thursday, 24 July 2008 18:34

Great Male Survey: Sexuality Myths

"Do men prefer larger breasts? Do men lie to get women into bed?" writes Jasmine Leigh in the introduction to her list of ten sexuality myths associated with men. Her list answers questions like these, and do all men want a bigger penis?

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Men Prefer Women With Curves Over Skinny Women

Last Updated (Thursday, 24 July 2008 06:15) Thursday, 24 July 2008 06:29

Gentlemen Prefer A Size 12

Boinkology reports that "the UK's Fabulous Mag recently conducted a 'Fabulous Body Survey,' asking (presumably heterosexual) men and women about their ideal female body type." The women preferred a skinnier body type while the men were more interested in a woman with curves.

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Female Libido and Effects of Hormones Like Testosterone

Last Updated (Wednesday, 23 July 2008 19:40) Wednesday, 23 July 2008 19:19

Google launched Knol today, and while it's still all shiny and new, we decided to bring you the first libido-related story. It is in fact the only story that turned up when we searched for "libido".

Libido Problems in Women

Richard Santen, an endocrinologist at the University of Virginia, Charlottesville, VA, has written a piece that starts out "Many women are distressed when they experience a decrease in interest in sexual activity (libido)* and often bring this up with their health care providers (1;2)." He goes into great detail on the topic, and it's hormone-oriented, but informative.

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Spank Vimeo Over Book Video Trouble

Last Updated (Wednesday, 23 July 2008 17:33) Wednesday, 23 July 2008 18:25

Vimeo's response and book trailer thoughts

On her Lusty Lady blog, Rachel Kramer Bussel writes about a terms of service violation notice she received from Vimeo, and speculates it may have been over the trailer to promote her erotica book Spanked. She has the video embedded on the page and it's cute and worth seeing.

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Viagra Helps Women with Sexual Dysfunction

Last Updated (Wednesday, 23 July 2008 06:04) Wednesday, 23 July 2008 07:01

Viagra helps depressed women: study

Yahoo! News has a story stating that "the erectile dysfunction drug Viagra has proven effective at combating sexual dysfunction in depressed women, according to a study published Tuesday." This is important because "sexual dysfunction is a common side effect of antidepressants," causing many people to stop taking them, and women don't have as many choices for treatment of sexual dysfunction as men do.

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Learn to Have an Instant Orgasm

Last Updated (Tuesday, 22 July 2008 18:14) Tuesday, 22 July 2008 17:41

Episode 53: The Art of Instant Orgasm (Part One) with Drs. Steve and Vera Bodansky

"Learn what is an 'Instant Orgasm', and why they feel it so important to emphasize learning the skill of having one. Find out what you can do to become 'instantly orgasmic'," as Dr. Patti Taylor interviews  Drs. Steve and Vera Bodansky for a podcast. The full written transcript is available online.

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